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The Love Letter
Monday, June 18, 2007
Author: Carol Norda

Imagine yourself back in the 16th or 17th century. You need to express to your lover how you feel and how you are longing to spend long, intimate moments together. How? There are no cellphones, telephones, e-mails -- nothing. Nothing to ensure communication save quill, parchment and perhaps an errand boy to deliver your passionate missive. The letter is full of desire and yearning. It conveys to the lucky recipient just how much you care and long to be in his or her arms.

As we are catapulted into the 21st century and envelope ourselves in all its modern comforts, we inadvertently leave behind some pleasurable traditions that would leave one trembling with excitement and anticipation - traditions that are worthy of preservation and cultivation. The art of writing a love letter should be nurtured and perfected when one wants the romance to grow and flower.

The love letter can fire the imagination of the one who is writing it as well as the one who receives it. The pleasure of imagining different ways to write about your love and passion is just part of the joy. Sharing that imagination with your chosen through the written word rounds out the experience.

A love letter need not be pages and pages of gushing mush, either. Think of whatever delightful, decadent, even naughty expressions that would ignite the mind and strike flaming anticipation in the body. Build up your vocabulary to include a variety of words to describe the intimacy or the sensual nocturnal games you could share.

The letter may describe what pleasures await when you next meet or feelings of love and tenderness. Take the time to tailor your letter for the moment. If a bit of romance is the order of the day, start your letter by using adjectives like darling, dear heart, my love. Go on to express tender feelings and how it is for you when you spend intimate moments with your chosen. It’s a marvelous way to set the tone for moments of soft, sweet, loving time together.

Perhaps a more primal experience is what’s called for. Strong words that send the pleasure points strumming with rapture would impart exactly the sort of nightly carnal delights that could be in store. Beginning the letter with words that flatter your chosen would let him know of what sort of naughty fun he can expect.

One scenario could be played out like this: You are leaving your love nest before your mate. You won’t see him until the day is done. Take your lipstick and write on the mirror what luscious delights are in store when you two next meet. An unfettered love letter scented with a fragrance you know him to enjoy, peeking out a pair of lacy undies it and left next to his pillow will have his mind reeling with possibilities.

Exploring this undervalued tool is a sweet way to weave romance, enchantment and desire with your mate. There are no boundaries within the imagination. Set it free and discover the joys of the love letter.


About the Author:
Carol Norda specializes in dating tips for her website and newsletter. She covers many topics from flirting, meeting people to date, lovemaking and much, much more. Visit her website, for more information.

posted by Ladybird @ 12:28 PM   23 comments
Spice Up That Conversation for the Most Fulfilling and Intimate Relationships
Monday, June 11, 2007
Author: Michael Douglas

Indulge his inner Superman
Every man secretly longs to play super-hero and save the day. That's why one of the best ways to get him talking is to ask for his help in solving a problem, whether it's a work snafu or a friendship crisis. Even if you're not looking for a solution, make him feel important.

Dream big together
It's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day minutiae of life and forget to talk about big things like your innermost dreams. (Remember those?) But, it's super-bonding to talk and think about the future you're building together. Dreams are like big plans. Sharing them is a way of saying, "I am happy and want you right there with me in every step of the way."

Really listen
Hey, it's only normal to zone out after, 'How was your day?' But focus and you'll catch a tidbit that opens into a convo. One easy trick that will help you stay totally tuned in at that critical moment - repeat your partner's answer as a question. "Your meeting has been postponed again?" Saying his words aloud forces you to register their meaning, and practically guarantees he'll elaborate.

Chat him up in the car
Ever notice how your most surprising conversations happen on the interstate? It's no accident - guys are most likely to free-associate when they're partly occupied (even if it's just killing time until they get into the range of a good radio station). There's a reason: Men are more likely to open up when they don't have to make eye contact, confirm studies. In the male world, eye contact is confrontational. Looking straight ahead makes him feel more comfortable.

Drop a juicy tidbit
Here's a get-closer move you really wouldn't expect: Share a hot piece of gossip with him before you tell any of your girlfriends. While most men pretend not to care about other people's private lives, a recent study from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology found that guys actually eat gossip up more than women do.

Play "What if..."
Want to know him on a whole new level? Run a personality-revealing question by him. A few of our favourites: If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you choose? or If you had to eat only one food for the rest of your life, what would it be? Who knows, you may even pick up an insider gift tip or fresh date-night idea.

Bring up five happy things for every problem
Sure, it's important to get problems out in the open. But the happiest couples dwell much more on what's right in their little world than what's wrong. Research has found that the strongest couples actually make five times as many positive statements to and about each other and their relationship as negative ones. No need to keep a tally; just remember to keep the complaints to a minimum on a daily basis. And make a habit of hitting happy notes.

Feel-good moves
Why get hands-on with your man? Touching causes a physiological reaction - it gets oxytocin, the hormone that creates feelings of connection, flowing.

Hitch a piggyback ride
No instructions needed - just sneak up from behind him, throw your arms around his neck and hop on. Snuggling tight and nuzzling the back of his neck seals the deal.

Overlap your morning shower
Agreed: Sharing a shower is not sexy. But tag-teaming it - meaning you don't get out until your guy gets in - is far sexier than you'd think. Share a quick kiss before hopping out or invent your own special 'tag'. Not in a big rush? Even better: Lounge around until your husband is out of his shower, then open your towel and warm him up.

Flirt shamelessly... with your own man
The next time you two are at a crowded party together, or even lazing around one crazy Saturday afternoon, accidentally brush against him.

Get warm and cozy the old-fashioned way
So the air-conditioning made it a little chilly inside that restaurant or movie theater? Instead of wrapping yourself up and getting out of there, tell him "you're a bit cold, smother your face against his chest, and let his body heat get you warm.

Make TV time together a turn-on... idly tending to a few unexpected erogenous zones on your guy's body. First, lightly trace delicate circles on each of his wrists. Next, let your touch wander to the tippity-top of each of his fingers.

Date-night makeovers
Date nights are great - until they start to get a little too routine. Solution: Break out of the Saturday-night-at-8 box. Trying anything new wakes up the brain, say researchers, "It releases dopamine, which gets you both excited."

Plan a top-secret, super-confidential date
One of you is always picking the movie or calling to make the dinner reservations. So bust out of the rut: Every Friday or Saturday for the next month or two, trade off surprising each other with hush-hush romantic outings.

About the Author:
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and he provides relationship tips and help for singles and married couples at his website Also, visit his latest updated section on dating and relationship articles where you can contribute your own thoughts and comments to be published online.

posted by Ladybird @ 7:03 AM   6 comments
Lust at Face Value
Wednesday, June 6, 2007
Author: Michael Douglas

A section of celebrities and socialites and a survey from an Australian university are now validating a whole new truth about the mutual attraction society - that women are driven towards men more for their face than for their muscles, and men too aren't too crazy about that perfect figure of women.

That means that the rush for a silicon implant can wait. And if you are from Mars, for the time being atleast, those daily workouts can be kept at bay. The bottomline? Do up your face, put on some make-up, but hey, wait. Also bring back that genuineness in your eyes, and the dream romantic date is sure to materialise.

Says singer and actor, Christine Albury, "It's so true. A face, more than a man's physical attributes gives an idea of what the man is. Face reflects the entire personality of an individual and a reason why girls look at a face before becoming a partner in love." Adds Shireen Mitchell "I go more by the presentability of a man before committing to someone. A face reveals a man's overall presentability to a large extent."

A great body in any case is a no-no for the tribe that belongs to the fairer sex. "I just don't go by a guy's body while choosing a partner. Someone who has a great body minus the nice aura is a sure no-no," says model Deepika Padukone. Even guys aren't gung-ho on a woman's body. "I pay more attention to the way a girl carries herself. Her conduct, her attitude, everything matters. I notice all these attributes in a girl before starting a courtship," says actor Jimmy Williams. "Her eyes, the way she talks, the manner in which she carries herself, plays a key role while settling for my lady love. A woman with an average body and a great charisma is a sure bet any day," says model Steve Miller. However, not everyone seems to agree to this new sexual attraction theory. Says actor and model James Thompson, "I want perfection in everything. A girl has to have a perfect body, perfect face and, of course, she has to know how to carry herself with style."

Actor Alan feels the same way, "I get attracted to women who are not just good looking but also have a nice attitude." Television sensation Susan Fuller however settles for a middle path. "A guy has to be a conversationalist to be my heart-throb. He has to have an ability to carry himself well. He should also be able to walk right, talk smartly and have a husky voice."

So all you guys and gals, what are you waiting for? Just follow your heart and you will surely find your soulmate with those perfect looks and attitude.


About the Author:
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and writes articles about love, dating and relationships. Check out his latest offerings, free advice and other related stories at his websites and

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