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| Top Relationship Killers - How to Avoid the Pitfalls of a Failed Relationship |
| Tuesday, March 13, 2007 |
Author: Michael Douglas
The dating world is often harsh and chaotic. Finding somebody who is worthy of your time can be a difficult and dirty job. Nonetheless, we are compelled to enter such an unforgiving world for the sake of the desired outcome: a good relationship. Once you've found such a gem of a person and settled nicely into a comfortable relationship, you don't want to throw it all away with a nasty mis-step. Below are some common relationship killers and how to avoid them.
Being critical
It is said that a little constructive criticism can be positive. This is the case, of course, for everybody except your girlfriend. Although suggestions are generally considered acceptable, particularly if she asks for them, put downs and unwarranted negative input are expected from her mother, not her lover. If you correct her, tell her how to dress or generally act as though you know best, she will feel self-conscious.
Becoming unkempt
Style is by no means infinitely important, but if you become shabby as soon as you're comfortable with her, she'll be sure to keep her distance. If she was attracted to you when you were wearing starched shirts, chances are that's what she likes, and she may stop being attracted to you if all you wear are t-shirts and dirty jeans.
Being snappy
The more serious you get, the more time you and her spend together. There's a chance that you might find some of her habits to be not as charming as you thought. So, you find yourself nagging her like she's your little sister. You act as though you're annoyed by her every move. You're not, of course, but you just feel comfortable enough to be blunt. Unfortunately for you, she probably won't accept this behaviour for a very long period.
Cheating
Physical cheating is never acceptable unless you and your girl have an agreement about such behaviour, or something like an 'open relationship'. But cheating isn't limited only to sexual misconduct - there is a second type of cheating that can be nearly as hurtful. And that's emotional cheating. This type of cheating applies to very serious relationships in which your girl would expect full disclosure and sharing. It just means that your girlfriend wants to feel like you trust her and confide in her. She doesn't want to be second-best. And if she is, she'll notice.
Being controlling
This one is age-old. Many people in relationships are control freaks. You get jealous of her guy friends. You tell her not to spend so much time gossiping with her girl friends. You tell her she spent too much money at the shoe store. Although women have a reputation for being clingy, they also enjoy their independence. Instead of demanding time, ask for it.
Judging her friends and family
If you find her friends, her sister and her mother annoying, you're going to have an awfully hard time. It's important to try to see what she sees in them. If you try to see the good things in them, you might actually start to like them.
About the Author:
Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and writes articles about love, dating and relationships. He also offers free dating tips for women and free dating advice for men at his website http://www.datersmanual.com |
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HI dear,
I love your blog, very informative and funny....
greets,
Sandy
http://euroafrica.blogspot.com/
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Now see, I wish we had blogs like this around when I was younger..
Heck...wish we had blogs at all back then.
Well, still, I'm glad this one's out here.. never to late to learn more.
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Dear Ladybird,
Nice article...is dating only one option for RELATIONSHIP???
Regards,
http://qualitytale.blogspot.com
http://indiaonwheel.blogspot.com
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Real Nice Blog you have there ! I have appreciation for you, you did a really good job, I will link your blog. You can do the same with my blog if you want. Bye bye xxx
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hi
i've just opened my own blog the bridge and i would like you to participate in it so that we can share taughts and opinions.
concerning mistakes we make in relationships,i agree with all what you said except that if you start a relationship saying to your self i should do this i should not do that,if you controll all what you say and do,the relationship becomes fake,it's not you,you keep everything for yourself and you are trying to be the one she wants.dont you agree?
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Interesting blog read. Check out my site: www.quickdatehelp.com
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@ Cam Québec
Thanks! I will definetely link some of your blogs, which I loved, despite my poor french.
Take care!
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@cattywoman
thanks so much! c u in your blog!
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sufism: Come, come again, whatever you are.. mevlana, turkey
Come, Come again ! Whatever you are... Whether you are infidel, idolater or fireworshipper. Whether you have broken your vows of repentance a hundred times This is not the gate of despair, This is the gate of hope. Come, come again... Not Christian or Jew or Muslim, not Hindu, Buddhist, sufi, or zen. Not any religion or cultural system. My place is placeless, a trace of the traceless. Neither body or soul. Mevlana Jelauddin RUMI
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Keep your man happy and you'll have a great relationship. The man comes first
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Hi,
Relationships are certainly tricky, aren't they? I know an awful lot of women who struggle to get it right and increasingly, I'm hearing of men who also scratch their heads in bewilderment over how to make their relationships work. Some of the information 'out there' is at best, misguided, and at worst, downright dangerous. I appreciate your insights.
Mel
http://www.mel-empoweringwomen.blogspot.com
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Interesting advice, although it seems to be aimed only at the man. Is there a counterpart that females would follow?
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Here would be a hard relationship to hold down:
"Go take to yourself a wife of whoredom and have children of whoredom.." Hosea 1:2 Old Testemant
Especially for a prophet of God.
"Husbands love you wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her..." Ephesians 5:25
"For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person-though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die-but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" Romans 5:6-8
It is impossible for humanity in his own strength to love like that. He is very capable of incredible acheivment but not that kind of love in his own ability.
Who would want to. I mean...why bother when there is so much pleasure out there. Right?
So why not Go find somebody you hate and would rather kill and destroy with vengeance and instead choose to love them and not only do good to them but to also make them your bride and patiently endure their unfaithfulness to you 70 x 7. It almost sounds insane but thank God he didn't think it was.
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hey there very nice article and i dont think dating is the only option for a realation there are so many other ways of rwealtion. kewl stuff ne way be in touch
regards Biby - Blog
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Nice all these advices but sometimes they could be a bit stereotypes, they don't apply to everybody. Still nice blog =)
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I agree especially with Cheating..this is a big dealbreaker with me.
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" Ladybird said...
"Now see, I wish we had blogs like this around when I was younger..
Heck...wish we had blogs at all back then.
Well, still, I'm glad this one's out here.. never to late to learn more."
What are you talking about? You're only 22!!!
c u around.
March 15, 2007 11:32 PM "
- Younger.. when I was 15, 16.
Wish I knew it then.. :) Would've avoided a lot of embarrassing times
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nice blog, visit me sometime
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Hello,
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Well Said. I'm new, and have yet to search your archive for exactly *why* women tend to "love" all of the above. Cheers!
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Interest article!
Should check out this link HERE!
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yes，you blog is very informative and useful.
I like it very much.
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HI dear,
I love your blog, very informative and funny....
greets,
Sandy
http://euroafrica.blogspot.com/